Saturday, May 10, 2008

Mothers Day

I have some questions for all of us..if your daring..play along

1. What was your relationship with your Mom?

2. What was your birth order..how many siblings?

3. Did your relationship change as you got older?

4. What was your mothers birth order?

5. Was your Mom a younger or older Mom then your friends?

6. How did Mom and Dad get along?


When I was younger my Mom and I constantly argued..I was the oldest..one younger sister..

my Mom was thirty when I was born..thirty four when my sister was born..she was the

youngest in a family of nine...my Dad was one of the oldest in a family of ten..we didn't start to

get along until I was married and out of the house..then, unfortunately, I got divorced after my

son was born and was forced to move back for five years, then I married again..Mom and Dad

never really argued...they just didn't speak..Dad would say "who is she mad at ? me or you?"

It was hard to figure out...in the last few years of her life we got along fine..and I miss her every

day of my life...we may not have always seen eye to eye..but she tried..and I still love her..

p.s. Mo, please don't correct me...I'm fragile...Maun

7 Comments:

BMX said...

I love my mom very much.I want to give a special gift to my mom in Mothers day.thanks for give us the chance for say something about our mom.

Speedcat Hollydale said...

I have some questions for all of us..if your daring..play along

1. What was your relationship with your Mom?
Excellent

2. What was your birth order..how many siblings?
I was first of two

3. Did your relationship change as you got older?
no

4. What was your mothers birth order?
3rd out of 4

5. Was your Mom a younger or older Mom then your friends?
same

6. How did Mom and Dad get along?
Great!

Do I get graded????

Ellen said...

Hi Maunie,

thanks so much for sharing this!! It really is an beautiful and heartwarming way to stop and think about the relationship I have with my own mother, and the role she played and is playing in my life..

The love you have for your own mother shines through so brightly..
I sincerely hope that love for her will help you through the pain of missing her..

Have a wonderful Mother's Day Maunie!!

mauniejames3 said...

Speedy; I am jealous of your perfect relationship with your Mom..you are both so lucky...it's hard to have one in this imperfect world....


Ellen: Thank you so much..you have the ability to always make me feel better about myself and my silly posts...I took care of my Mom when she was very sick and dying..just before she died she said..in a completly rational voice,,"Maun, why did you let this happen to me" Oh it was so scary..but even after her long illness when she did die I felt as if she had been hit by a bus..I did love her so much in spite of everything..

MamaFlo said...

1. What was your relationship with your Mom?
Our relationship was horrible, she didn't like me and I didn't like her.

2. What was your birth order..how many siblings?
I was the first of 7 children - Girl, 2 boys, girl, 3 boys.

3. Did your relationship change as you got older?
With my mother? Got worse.

4. What was your mothers birth order?
My mother was the third of three children.

5. Was your Mom a younger or older Mom then your friends?
For me she was younger but she was alot older by the time she had the last child 16 years later.

6. How did Mom and Dad get along
They fought.

I'd like to add that I was a great mom and that was probably in large part because I was bound and determined to make my children's experience growing up so much better than my experience.

Mo said...

1. My relationship with my mom has its ups and downs... sometimes we will go for years without speaking when she's drinking heavily. Right now, we're talking at least once a week, and she's planning a visit sometime this summer -- we haven't seen each other since her father's funeral in September 2004.

2. I am the oldest. I have one younger sister, and one half-sister who is eleven days younger than me. (Yes, my father was a busy man in college...)

3. My sister & half-sister have a great relationship. My sister and I used to have a not-so-great relationship, then we became friends, and now we e-mail occasionally because she moved to Australia! My half-sister and I really don't have a relationship.

4. Mom's an only child.

5. Mom was about the same age as my friend's mom - but she was a total hippie, so my friends all loved her.

6. Um, they divorced when I was about 4, so I'd say NO they didn't get along too well!

mauniejames3 said...

Hi Mama Flo...I find it amazing that first borns seem to have more trouble getting along with Mom.

When the mother was the youngest it also seems to be a problem for the first born.

Those were two of the problems I seemed to have.

I'm sure your parenting was much better, we seem to learn by example. Even bad examples.

Hey Mo You too were the oldest and it really in some cases seems to make a differance. For some reason, lots of times, the oldest child seems to have the job of taking care of Mom.

Its amazing that when they are gone, no matter what, we miss them everyday..stick with it Mo, you will be so happy you did. I promise.